Top Ten New Year’s Resolutions

Published Date: December 29th, 2006
Category: Holiday Fun

By Lara Honos-Webb

1. Give my self permission to lose control (in non-destructive ways).

2. Spend my time building on my strengths rather than patching up my weaknesses.

3. Ask myself every day “What do I need?” and then take a step to meet that need.

4. Make myself right instead of wrong.

5. Honor my sadness and know that living with great vibrancy is the greatest tribute to those we love.

6. Make a list of activities that are delightful and do one every week.

7. Honor pleasure over performance demands, some of the time.

8. Admit that I don’t know.

9. Slow Down.

10. Say “NO” to myself on occasion and to others on many more occasions.

Whereas most New Year’s resolutions impose rigid demands for self-reform, Dr. Lara Honos-Webb’s, Listening to Depression: How Understanding Your Pain Can Heal Your Life gives the healing message that the search for perfection can backfire. Learn how aiming for pleasure, permission, power and presence can offer so much more than losing those last 10 pounds. And how pleasure, permission, power and presence will make it so much easier to lose those last 10 pounds.

This new year, try to break out of the habit of starting your new year by giving yourself a rigid program for self-reform. Give yourself permission to value presence over performance demands and outstanding expression of your gifts over narrow competition. You will be so much more effective at achieving your goals when you are guided by your strengths. We think we will be happy when we achieve our goals, but really – we will achieve our goals when we are already happy.

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